The only exception is when your partner is about to collide with another couple while moving backward. Warn him with a tap on the shoulder, or even pull him to a halt. He’ll thank you.
Be forgiving. Your partner has a lot to think about. He has to plan the next step, lead you into it, and at the same time navigate on an often crowded dance floor. If he is like me, doing more than one thing at a time is a challenge.
DONT ASSUME you know every move the leader will make from the moment he takes your hand.
I have danced with women who seem to be on automatic pilot. They dance through patterns they’re familiar with despite my best efforts to get them to do otherwise.
Even the best leaders will find it impossible to control a woman who is hell bent on doing 5 spins when the actual lead calls for a slow half turn.
Ladies, please start each dance with a blank slate that is waiting to be written upon by the leader. Assume nothing.
Rene’s comments: In my mind I compare leading some women very few fortunately to trying to reign in a bucking horse. You never now where they’re going to go next. It takes all the leaders effort to stay in the saddle. I’m a small guy and getting on in years and that kind of effort takes a lot out of me. Ladies, please have pity!
But I have also discovered that most ladies are unaware of the fact that they are leading. What they are really doing is pre-empting their partner from making choices. They are always a little ahead of their partner. At the time their partner tries to apply a lead, their weight has already transferred to the next foot, leaving him no choice to step in the same direction. Nervousness or tenseness seem to be the major reasons for this. My suggestion for you ladies: try to relax and enjoy, be patient and wait for your partners move.
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